(she/her)
New to Grow
Greetings! I'm Viola, founder of DemystiPHI, a virtual therapy practice built around one core idea that healing is really about reconnecting with your sovereign self by radically accepting the parts of yourself that got buried under everyone else's expectations and unfair influences. Meaning even though you're an adult who's smart, capable, and doing your best to hold it together on the outside, you're quietly exhausted and feeling disconnected on the inside. Are you at the point where you've been managing everything and everyone for so long that you forgot what your own needs actually sound like? Are you neurodivergent and tired of masking your way through life? Maybe you just know something has to shift, even if you cannot name what exactly that shift is yet. Whatever the reason for your fatigue, we can tackle it together. I bring warmth, honesty, and real tools to this work in the form of real coping skills you can practice between sessions and keep long after we stop working together. My approach is eclectic and pulls from shame work, body awareness, nervous system regulation and generational and cultural frameworks that center your lived experience as a person of color, because healing should never require you to leave your identity at the door. I would love to work with you to help you learn to recognize the hidden forces beneath your decisions, including your inherited survival patterns, unmet needs, and core beliefs that were inherited by you rather than chosen by you.
My first session with you will be more like a real conversation, where we'll cover the basics (consent forms, logistics, how to reach me etc) first before diving into your background. You are not required to share anything you are uncomfortable with. You can engage at your own comfort level and pace. I will ask what brought you here, some questions about your life, your relationships, and the patterns you have noticed in how you move through the world. Basically, I want to understand you as a person, not just a set of symptoms. By the time we wrap up, my goal is for you to feel like you were actually heard, to have a sense of whether we click, and to walk away with at least one thing worth sitting with before we meet again. And if I think someone else would be a better fit for what you need, I will tell you that honestly, because your healing matters more to me than filling a slot on my calendar.
My professional training in neuroscience and interpersonal dynamics means I think about people from multiple angles. I'm able to shift perspectives to consider how your brain works, how your relationships shaped you, and how the world you move through affects your mental health every single day. That combination lets me see the full picture, not just the part that fits neatly into a diagnosis. What my clients tell me most often is that I can hold the messy, complicated, layered reality of who they are without trying to simplify them into neat predictable categories or labels or diagnoses. I also specialize in working with adults who are AuDHD or ADHD. I do not treat neurodivergence as something to fix. I see it as a different way of operating, and I adjust how we work together to match. So if you have ever felt reduced or misread by a previous therapist, especially around race, culture, or neurodivergence, that is something I take seriously and work hard to get right. Lastly, what sets my practice apart is that I love to develop and build realistic therapy tools. I've created workbooks, exercises, and frameworks designed for melanated communities that you can use on your own, between sessions, and long after therapy ends. My ultimate goal is to help you reflect on and restructure the internal systems quietly running your daily life, by working closely with you to become the conscious architect of your own updated operating system.
I work best with adults who are curious about themselves and ready to do more than just talk about what is not working. My clients tend to be professionals, creatives, or deep thinkers who look like they have it all together but are quietly running on fumes. They are tired of code-switching, people-pleasing, or pushing through because slowing down never felt safe. Many of my clients are neurodivergent and have spent years adapting to systems that were not built for them. They are done performing and ready to actually live in alignment with who they are. So if you want a therapist who will be real with you, who understands your cultural context without you having to explain it, and who will give you practical skills alongside genuine presence, this is that space. I look forward to working with you!
Other specialties
I identify as
Acceptance and commitment (ACT)
ACT focuses on mindfulness, acceptance, and committed action, making it a powerful tool for managing my client's mental health challenges. It uses acceptance and mindfulness techniques as the medium to teach how your inner thoughts and feelings contribute to your current functioning and how radical acceptance helps you heal rather than fighting or avoiding them.